| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) 09:47 - Jul 11 with 8777 views | thame_hoops |
SO I finally succumbed to the world of dating apps (I'm 44 and swore id never use one)
Ive been on an app called Bumble for a week now, the rules are the lady has to make first contact... had 2 'dates' so far, or as I called them 'initial meeting to suss each other out'
First was out Reading way for a lunchtime coffee, with a lady who was really into cricket BUT a total nightclub girl and a completely different personality to the messages we exchanged. In order to relate to me liking football, she Kept going on about how she goes out clubbing and EPL footballers are always buying her and her mates champagne in the VIP rooms.....
2nd 'date' was at a lovely pub friday night in Uxbridge (the Malt Shovel) I was a little bit catfished by her photos....id say the photos were 5 years old... again, nice girl, good job, after 2 wines she started crying and wouldn't stop talking about her 'toxic' ex ... when i got home she sent me a nice message apologising.
I think going forward the first 'dates' will be on the video chat feature on the app
anyone got any advice/funny stories so far?
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:38 - Jul 8 with 2098 views | stainrods_elbow |
People 'date' online via photos, smartphones, and snippets of personal propaganda etc, and then seem surprised when they're catfished! You couldn't really make it up, except that's the 'real (read unreal) world nowadays.
It's not a 'numbers game'. If you're look for something serious, have a little think about those cliches.
Here's a radical idea. If you want to meet a man/woman, make friendly, authentic conversation in public places, join a club or course that reflects your interests, and be your best self at all times. The best people for you will be drawn to you. After that, leave it to fate - the most powerful force in the universe. If you're still alone, you're probably supposed to be (and there's a lot to be said for it).
Alternatively, hand your life over to an algorithm, meet potentially dangerous strangers with often unstable personalities and/or terrible baggage, jump into bed/church with them, and in the meantime treat looking for a partner like you're ordering pizza toppings. [Post edited 8 Jul 22:38]
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 09:53 - Jul 9 with 1867 views | TheChef |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:38 - Jul 8 by stainrods_elbow |
People 'date' online via photos, smartphones, and snippets of personal propaganda etc, and then seem surprised when they're catfished! You couldn't really make it up, except that's the 'real (read unreal) world nowadays.
It's not a 'numbers game'. If you're look for something serious, have a little think about those cliches.
Here's a radical idea. If you want to meet a man/woman, make friendly, authentic conversation in public places, join a club or course that reflects your interests, and be your best self at all times. The best people for you will be drawn to you. After that, leave it to fate - the most powerful force in the universe. If you're still alone, you're probably supposed to be (and there's a lot to be said for it).
Alternatively, hand your life over to an algorithm, meet potentially dangerous strangers with often unstable personalities and/or terrible baggage, jump into bed/church with them, and in the meantime treat looking for a partner like you're ordering pizza toppings. [Post edited 8 Jul 22:38]
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Ah here comes the Denigrator, good old Stainrod 
Like anything in life online dating has potential perils but if you use it sensibly you can meet good/nice people. |  |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 10:06 - Jul 9 with 1843 views | loftboy |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:38 - Jul 8 by stainrods_elbow |
People 'date' online via photos, smartphones, and snippets of personal propaganda etc, and then seem surprised when they're catfished! You couldn't really make it up, except that's the 'real (read unreal) world nowadays.
It's not a 'numbers game'. If you're look for something serious, have a little think about those cliches.
Here's a radical idea. If you want to meet a man/woman, make friendly, authentic conversation in public places, join a club or course that reflects your interests, and be your best self at all times. The best people for you will be drawn to you. After that, leave it to fate - the most powerful force in the universe. If you're still alone, you're probably supposed to be (and there's a lot to be said for it).
Alternatively, hand your life over to an algorithm, meet potentially dangerous strangers with often unstable personalities and/or terrible baggage, jump into bed/church with them, and in the meantime treat looking for a partner like you're ordering pizza toppings. [Post edited 8 Jul 22:38]
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This is thread is a few years old now, but I have now been with my mrs 10 years, we met on “match”
I couldn’t have met a kinder more loving person if I visited every pub and club in the UK. |  |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 10:33 - Jul 9 with 1803 views | scot1963 |
I've been lucky as I've always met men during my life just in the natural course of things. I met Blob on here unintentionally but I think we might have been the only couple who met on here? I met a partner in a pub when neither of us was particularly looking for anyone. He has just died but we stayed friends right up till now. One man in the street - he had one leg and was always in the same place as I went past every day and couldn't escape and then my current partner I've known for years as a friend. When I was on social media sites generally, and I knew the ladies who were on there, I did notice a lot of their profile pictures looked nothing like the actual person I knew as they'd been altered, quite drastically in some cases - so beware gentlemen . |  | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 12:44 - Jul 9 with 1657 views | Juzzie |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:38 - Jul 8 by stainrods_elbow |
People 'date' online via photos, smartphones, and snippets of personal propaganda etc, and then seem surprised when they're catfished! You couldn't really make it up, except that's the 'real (read unreal) world nowadays.
It's not a 'numbers game'. If you're look for something serious, have a little think about those cliches.
Here's a radical idea. If you want to meet a man/woman, make friendly, authentic conversation in public places, join a club or course that reflects your interests, and be your best self at all times. The best people for you will be drawn to you. After that, leave it to fate - the most powerful force in the universe. If you're still alone, you're probably supposed to be (and there's a lot to be said for it).
Alternatively, hand your life over to an algorithm, meet potentially dangerous strangers with often unstable personalities and/or terrible baggage, jump into bed/church with them, and in the meantime treat looking for a partner like you're ordering pizza toppings. [Post edited 8 Jul 22:38]
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As mentioned on page 1 I had a few goes (must be 20 years ago now!) and gave up because people were just not being true to their profile but fair play though to anyone who wants to keep going.
Then about 13 years ago, through some friends, I took up Salsa dancing at a club just a few minutes walk from where I lived.
I had no intention of using it to hook up, it was just a fun thing once a week with friends but I ended up having more chances of hooking up than on any date via a dating service that I'd been on!
Firstly, the boy:girl ratio was about 3:10 and you have close contact without getting slapped! Actually learning to dance is probably a better, and more fun, way of getting interest from girls (outside of the dance class environment) than corny chat-up lines or being a bit of a geezer.
There were a couple of girls where things looked 'interesting' but I then ended up meeting (not related in any way to the salsa course) with my now wife so my life took a different course.
I gave up going to the class, not because of her but just I was now doing other things in other venues in other locations, but certainly made me think I should have done it sooner as it certainly did present opportunities!
Edit: just to add that a lot of people join hobby clubs not to hook up so if anyone shows interest in someone be respectful and back off if they don’t reciprocate. Same in any other situation I guess.
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:00 - Jul 9 with 1597 views | NorthLondonR |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 21:55 - Jul 8 by colinallcars |
I had no idea so many use these apps.
Trouble is you don't get to use your chat up lines.
I used to say - 'ello darlin' fancy goin' up to the bar ?
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Phwoar Colin, you've certainly pulled my plonker. In which case I'll have a pint o'lager and a pack of cheese n onion sweetcheeks |  | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:01 - Jul 9 with 1594 views | TheChef |
Didn't the OP end up with a lady in the US? | |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:02 - Jul 9 with 1592 views | ted_hendrix |
Been married 52 Years, She's a goodun.
No dating apps for me thank you. |  |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:09 - Jul 9 with 1571 views | BklynRanger |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:01 - Jul 9 by TheChef |
Didn't the OP end up with a lady in the US? |
Indeed. Going strong last we heard.
When I first saw this thread I wondered if it had all gone wrong, but it seems to have been dragged up after 4/5 years by some kind of romance-bot(?) |  | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:10 - Jul 9 with 1567 views | BklynRanger |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:02 - Jul 9 by ted_hendrix |
Been married 52 Years, She's a goodun.
No dating apps for me thank you. |
Hopefully she feels the same way Ted!... | | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 21:33 - Jul 9 with 1220 views | Logman |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 19:04 - Jul 9 by ed_83 |
If there’s any aspect of human endeavour in which Stainrod doesn’t consider himself an expert - and isn’t willing to explain in excruciating detail how the rest of us idiots are getting it completely wrong - then we’re yet to discover it. Truly the greatest to ever do it. [Post edited 9 Jul 19:05]
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Dating apps are a load of w*nk. If you can find the right one. Mobifriends is my favourite. |  | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:17 - Jul 9 with 1168 views | GroveR |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 20:00 - Jul 8 by bosh67 |
To be fair I thought B&Q was some kind of sadomasochistic abbreviation... It was a pretty rubbish safe word. |
Well I worked for MFI for a while and when I was asked on dates what I did for a living I said it very quickly like "I'm-at-MI5" - defending our country from Soviet spies is waaay more sexy than defending our country from substandard Taiwanese bin-cupboard hinges. [Post edited 9 Jul 22:19]
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:46 - Jul 9 with 1112 views | wombat |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:17 - Jul 9 by GroveR |
Well I worked for MFI for a while and when I was asked on dates what I did for a living I said it very quickly like "I'm-at-MI5" - defending our country from Soviet spies is waaay more sexy than defending our country from substandard Taiwanese bin-cupboard hinges. [Post edited 9 Jul 22:19]
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Being of a certain age , does anyone remember the adverts in the papers ? Single clean women looking for fun and frolics etc |  |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 23:59 - Jul 9 with 1033 views | numptydumpty |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:46 - Jul 9 by wombat |
Being of a certain age , does anyone remember the adverts in the papers ? Single clean women looking for fun and frolics etc |
Those adverts were listed and then they used to have the lonely hearts column, as it used to be known.
Never did that myself, but I used to read them as some of them were a little strange.
"Will the young lady who was carrying a pink handbag and had a red coat on, get in touch. You smiled at me, when I got on the number 63 bus to Tower Hamlets on Thursday afternoon and i have not been able to get you out of mind since."
Wonder if that particular woman randomly read that particular advert in that particular paper on that particular day, that it was published !!!!
Now, that way surely must have been finding that particular needle in that particular haystack !!!
A very long shot indeed !!! [Post edited 10 Jul 0:00]
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 01:07 - Jul 10 with 1003 views | Boston |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 18:30 - Jul 8 by Guppy22 |
I broke up from my ex wife 3 and half years ago and ended up on the sites, actually preferred bumble as the woman I met generally looked like their pictures. Met my current girlfriend on their 11 months ago, she actually looked much better than her pictures and apart from her son supporting the scum there isn’t much wrong with her |
This woman you met on a building site, rugged? | |
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 21:18 - Jul 10 with 656 views | thame_hoops |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 13:01 - Jul 9 by TheChef |
Didn't the OP end up with a lady in the US? |
Glad this thread is resurrected! Yes I’m seeing a Texan, and we’re getting married tomorrow!
As others said, it’s really the only game in town.
You do need to be persistent, don’t be creepy and take some nice photos. Us guys don’t take as many as women do but make sure they’re recent pics . Also, ladies like voice notes so they know you’re genuine.
Speaking to my partner about her experiences from a women’s POV, she said so many guys would just use one liners, not make the effort so make sure your first ‘shot’ references things she said about in her profile, show an interest in their hobbies.
Living in oxon, I wouldn’t get many matches on bumble after a few days unless I went into London (location based matching) it’s definitely harder when you live in a small town/village
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| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 21:22 - Jul 10 with 652 views | thame_hoops |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 12:44 - Jul 9 by Juzzie |
As mentioned on page 1 I had a few goes (must be 20 years ago now!) and gave up because people were just not being true to their profile but fair play though to anyone who wants to keep going.
Then about 13 years ago, through some friends, I took up Salsa dancing at a club just a few minutes walk from where I lived.
I had no intention of using it to hook up, it was just a fun thing once a week with friends but I ended up having more chances of hooking up than on any date via a dating service that I'd been on!
Firstly, the boy:girl ratio was about 3:10 and you have close contact without getting slapped! Actually learning to dance is probably a better, and more fun, way of getting interest from girls (outside of the dance class environment) than corny chat-up lines or being a bit of a geezer.
There were a couple of girls where things looked 'interesting' but I then ended up meeting (not related in any way to the salsa course) with my now wife so my life took a different course.
I gave up going to the class, not because of her but just I was now doing other things in other venues in other locations, but certainly made me think I should have done it sooner as it certainly did present opportunities!
Edit: just to add that a lot of people join hobby clubs not to hook up so if anyone shows interest in someone be respectful and back off if they don’t reciprocate. Same in any other situation I guess.
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Salsa is great to meet people, even if it’s just friends. | | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 22:14 - Jul 10 with 599 views | scot1963 |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 21:18 - Jul 10 by thame_hoops |
Glad this thread is resurrected! Yes I’m seeing a Texan, and we’re getting married tomorrow!
As others said, it’s really the only game in town.
You do need to be persistent, don’t be creepy and take some nice photos. Us guys don’t take as many as women do but make sure they’re recent pics . Also, ladies like voice notes so they know you’re genuine.
Speaking to my partner about her experiences from a women’s POV, she said so many guys would just use one liners, not make the effort so make sure your first ‘shot’ references things she said about in her profile, show an interest in their hobbies.
Living in oxon, I wouldn’t get many matches on bumble after a few days unless I went into London (location based matching) it’s definitely harder when you live in a small town/village
Good luck |
Happy wedding for tomorrow - what a coincidence the thread came back up! Hope all goes well. | | | |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 17:20 - Jul 11 with 378 views | Dorse |
| Online Dating Apps (*NON QPR) on 23:59 - Jul 9 by numptydumpty |
Those adverts were listed and then they used to have the lonely hearts column, as it used to be known.
Never did that myself, but I used to read them as some of them were a little strange.
"Will the young lady who was carrying a pink handbag and had a red coat on, get in touch. You smiled at me, when I got on the number 63 bus to Tower Hamlets on Thursday afternoon and i have not been able to get you out of mind since."
Wonder if that particular woman randomly read that particular advert in that particular paper on that particular day, that it was published !!!!
Now, that way surely must have been finding that particular needle in that particular haystack !!!
A very long shot indeed !!! [Post edited 10 Jul 0:00]
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'Single woman, 47, lives alone, excessively flared nostrils, likes hamsters, violence and carpet bowls seeks 21 year old male underwear model for friendship, maybe more'.
'Are you looking at me? Because I've been watching you. For the last 6 months. From your front garden. Every night. Call now before I go back to Broadmoor'.
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